“The God that Christians talk about says I can’t live how I want…I can’t believe He would love everyone but people like me…”
More people can relate to this statement than you can possibly imagine. I believe that many people but, homosexuals in particular, truly believe this idea. Unfortunately, this concept is only proliferated and worsened by the false “christians” out there like the crazy church that makes statements like, “God hates gays,” and often includes much more vulgar phrases in their picket lines. True believers are called to something much higher than merely condemning every sinner to hell.
There are great opportunities to begin conversations with unbelievers ever day, but especially in 2 days because there will be an event that will include over 8000 schools across the country called “Day of Silence.” The purpose of the event is to “call attention to the serious problem of anti‐lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender bullying, harassment, name‐calling and discrimination in schools.” Why a day of silence? Because LGBT students are often forced into silence and isolation by bullying and out of fear of discrimination.
While many schools apparently participate in this event, I for one had never heard of it until this year.
This could potentially be a great evangelism opportunity; an opportunity to show Christ’s love rather than just His wrath, fire, and brimstone.
We can either choose to simply ignore, ridicule, or criticize the event with a judgmental, superior attitude, or we can love them like any other lost and hopeless sinner. Funny how Christians so often end up with spiritual amnesia of how they themselves were once enemies of God, in a hopeless and sinful existence, headed for a life of eternal condemnation before they were cleansed, white as snow by the blood of Christ…the same Christ that desires for all of those who claim to be homosexual to turn from their own sin and be born again.
As I do so often, let’s turn to the Apostle Paul, for some insight and wisdom here:
19 For though I am free from all, I have made myself a servant to all, that I might win more of them. 20To the Jews I became as a Jew, in order to win Jews. To those under the law I became as one under the law (though not being myself under the law) that I might win those under the law. 21 To those outside the law I became as one outside the law (not being outside the law of God but under the law of Christ) that I might win those outside the law. 22To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all people, that by all means I might save some. 23 I do it all for the sake of the gospel, that I may share with them in its blessings.
Paul is saying, “Look, I’m free from all men, in one sense, I have been catapulted into the kingdom of light, there’s no encumbrances in this world, but I have made myself consciously and purposely a slave to them all for evangelistic purposes.” Paul didn’t want to pull out of the word. Paul didn’t leave the world. He didn’t run from it. He got right in the middle of it for the purpose of leading people to the knowledge of Christ. He never calls for isolation however. There’s no place for isolation from unbelievers. If God wanted us isolated from unbelievers, He would have saved us and instantly catapulted us into heaven. He is not calling for isolation. In fact, we are mandated to intersect with the unsaved all the time. The apostle has said before that the gospel is for everyone who has ears to hear, including those practicing a lifestyle of sexual sin. How else can they come out of it but by the power of Christ?
We are to love and minister to and even become servants to the fallen unregenerate sinners of this world. In no way, however, does Paul encourage the gay and lesbian lifestyle (1 Cor. 6:9) (Rom. 1:26-27), but without a doubt, I believe Paul would stand up and take a Stone cast from a Pharisee against any sinner wrongfully persecuted, especially by the super religious. Relationship is what God is all about; Love. Therefore, we ought to be also. Am I saying be best friends with someone who is steeped in sexual sin and unwilling to hear the truth of the gospel? No. We are actually called to separate from the actions of those types of people.
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.”17 “Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” (2 cor. 6:14-17)
Paul describes two societies; two realms; two spheres utterly different, drastically distinct, completely incongruous and incompatible. He says there is no possibility for people in these two kingdoms to be bound together in common work, no partnership, no fellowship, no harmony, no commonality and no agreement does or can really exist. For Christians, there is no possibility of living in both worlds or shuttling back and forth.
Now, there will be those who say, “ok, so the bible tells us not to associate with unbelievers? So maybe it’s ok to witness to gay people, but that’s as far as I’ll go until they get saved…right?”
Lets see what Paul actually says there…
“I have written you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— 10 not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. 11 But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat. (1 cor. 5:9-11)
So whatever it means not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, it doesn’t mean that we are to cut off all association from them, otherwise we would have to go out of the world and that would be defying the very purpose for which the Lord saved us and left us and that is to go into the world. We are to love them. Not participate with them in their sinful desires and lifestyles, but we are not to ignore them altogether.
Whenever so-called “christians” ignore, ridicule or criticize Gays, Drug addicts, or even Atheists, we in many ways only succeed in reinforcing the idea that “God hates gays”—or any other sinful person group.
Which He doesn’t.
We all know John 3:16 and 2 Peter 3:9 tells us – “The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.”
After all, Romans 5:6 – “For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.” Who?
God loves everyone.
God loves priests, pastors and Nuns. He also loves the criminals, convicts, and drug addicts.
God loves atheists, Muslims, and the Buddhists.
God loves straight, Bi, and gay folks. He created them all.
Only people who personally and intimately KNOW Jesus Christ, know love and can therefore truly love others, while also speaking the truth- engage in authentic conversations about the Biblical perspective on homosexuality and all sin for that matter. Christ told the young rich man that the law is like a chain – mess up one link, the whole thing fails. That’s why we need His forgiveness, grace, and mercy.
To everyone that is “Homophobic,” or “Anti-Gay,” I challenge you to let God open up your heart, give you Christ eyes, and allow you to have a mutual dialogue about your differences and similarities with someone who is gay.
Jesus saw people as lost sheep without a shepherd. He would listen to them, show compassion, and then challenge them with the truth. He never sugar-coated sin nor did He ever make it seem as if He could let some things slide…He was heartbroken over the sin of humanity and the effect sin has on people: eternal death and separation from Him.
He died for us, just to be with us.
Don’t ever forget, our job is simply willingness to be used by God and model Christ’s love. No one has ever been argued or debated into heaven so don’t get involved with polemics. We are representatives of Jesus called to share not only His love, but the life-changing message of the gospel. Wherever your conversations go, always take the opportunity to make a Raucous of grace and tell everyone of how you were once a hater of God, until you realized God’s love and mercy when you trusted in Jesus Christ alone for salvation.
“but whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love of God is perfected. By this we may know that we are in him: whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked.” – 1 John 2:5-6